It is a good thing when you can help someone out. Everyone needs someone they can rely on. But stop and observe. Are the ones you are assisting doing anything for themselves? If you are giving money, is going for bills and living expenses or frivolous things? Is the person who is staying in your home being respectful? Are they looking for their own place or are they content to stay with no end in sight? If you are trying to help them find a job, make sure they are following up and aren’t sleeping the day away. If they call when they are in crisis, do they respond when you need something? And do they include you in their circle of friends or are you not invited to the adventures they post on social media? And lastly, don’t let anyone guilt you into helping because they have children. For some, their kids are a tool. They will push the responsibility onto whoever they can.